Our best teachers are often the ones we least expect. Yes, they are so deep undercover that we don’t even recognise them for the angels they are because they are the ones who have hurt, abandoned and broken us.
Sounds like a contradiction, but think about it a while and you will realise just how true it is.
Years ago my father left us for another woman and her family. It totally broke me as I was under 11 at the time. My parents separated and divorced. Dad re-married and I was relegated to alternate week-end visits. As I grew older we would meet clandestinely during the week so his second wife wouldn’t suspect he was spending time with me.
Mom dated twice about a year or so after the divorce (from what I recall) and then gave up totally on men. She preached wonderfully about the single life and how happy it was, about not needing to get married unless I was going to have children and even more recently about not even needing marriage for children. I must admit is stung a little when I realised she had given up on me getting married or having children years ago. And that got me really thinking about my life, being 40, single and san off-spring.
I needed a starting point to help me put things into perspective, find where I was headed and connect with myself and my destiny, so I headed for what I know best… I dusted off the old family and significant relationships Soul Contract Charts I had run a few years ago.
My mind was blown yet again – there, staring me in the face were all the patterns I have been running in my life. It was apparent which I had clearly worked through, but the biggies were still there to be tackled. It reminded me of my days in the corporate world where we looked for ‘quick wins’ to satisfy the funders, and were ‘working towards the end-game’ on the bigger issues!
Looking at my Soul Contract Charts, I had worked through most of the ‘quick wins’, but the core-curriculum lessons were still there, running in the background like out of date software slowing down the laptop. I knew it was time to tackle these lessons and delete the redundant files. My family and four significant men in my life were showing me the very patterns I needed to break to get to the core of who I truly am. In fact, they had been there for years and I had never noticed how important they were until now.
The time for these ‘quick wins’ was over. The time for breaking the pattern mould is now. The time for living my wonderful life is now, and these undercover angels where showing me the path. I couldn’t be any more grateful.
My parents were holding the biggest lesson for me to learn: loving myself enough to be who I truly am. Dad showed me how to be strong when I needed to be, gentle when the time was right and most of all, how to be present and available to those who need me. Mom shows me that love is unconditional and there for the long-haul. Those four significant men in my life have shown me the value of being non-judgemental, forgiving, sharing and the art of letting go.
There are no quick wins when it comes to love, just pure acceptance, understanding and allowing.
To be myself, I am standing in my power, and yes, some days are easier than others, but I stand none-the-less. Every day I choose love in new and exciting ways, some-times in the little things and some-times the bigger things. And yes, I make mistakes and have even missed the obvious at times, but that is when compassion, self-love and connection bring me back to the present.
And those are the days I am truly grateful for my undercover (and overtly visible) angels, because those teachers are the ones I least expect and they enrich this life just a little more with each day. They are the souls who have chosen to make themselves a part of my growth, and I would never have noticed the magnitude of their gifts without listening to my Soul Contract.
Through my soul contract I have realised, these teachers have not hurt, abandoned or broken me; they have made me the beautiful soul I am today. They have helped me ascend to heights I could never have imagined before, they are my Soul Family, and they are yours as well.
Open up to the lessons of those souls who have hurt you the most, for they are your deepest undercover angels.
Cheryl-lya has been a Soul Contract Reader for four years and is now available for private sessions and workshops. She holds both Skype and in-person sessions, helping people all over the globe. Contact her through her website soulscompass.net or call UK mobile 07527 303 911. You can also find her on Facebook: Souls Compass and Twitter: @cherrybug01
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